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Ignoring the Great Husband SearchBy Debbie Goff "Who then is able to stand against me? Who has preceded Me, that I should pay him? Everything under heaven is Mine." (Job 40:10-11) This scripture was God's admonishment to Job when Job was nearing the end of what proved to be the worst trial of his life. It was as if God was saying; "Hey Job, I am God. I own everything: your life, your health, your future. Show me someone else who is greater than Me. Everything under heaven is Mine!" Accepting this reality applies to all areas of our life, but perhaps never seems more real than when we are wondering if God has a perfect mate out there for us somewhere. The Bible clearly shows us that God has a plan and purpose for each person on this earth. Time and time again we see how God orchestrates the lives of His people to fulfill their destiny. Think of David running in the woods from Saul, Moses in the bulrushes, or Joseph in the pit. Since who you choose as a marriage partner is probably the single most important decision you will ever make in your spiritual life, don't you think the same God who knows how many hairs are on your head, cares about who you will spend the rest of your life with? Of course He does! He is working, right now on Your behalf to bring about the ideal match for you. Your job is to relax, trust, and begin praying for God to bless your future mate. Chances are, right now, the person that God has chosen for you is probably facing struggles, just like you. My grandmother used to tell me this all the time. She instructed me to begin praying for my future husband. I thought she was a little nutty, but followed her instructions anyway. I asked God to bless my future husband, to order his day, to encourage him in the Lord, to ease his burdens, to bless his family, to keep him pure and to somehow let him know that I was out there waiting for that special moment when God would allow us to begin our lives together. This type of praying changed my focus from having to have a date every weekend, to "Delighting in the Lord..." (Psalm 37:4) It was no longer my job to join in the Great Husband Search, like so many of my peers had done. I was able to relax and let God do the searching for me! When Buddy and I first met, it was not love at first sight. Buddy was a widower with four small children, and I was his babysitter. I was still "delighting in the Lord", i.e. going about my business with no idea, I was taking care of my future children. God knew I needed to first fall in love with Buddy's children. It wasn't until Buddy shocked me by expressing his love for me, that I realized he was the one I had been praying for! After 15 years of marriage, Buddy still completes me in ways that only God knew he would be able to do! My personality is such that I need lots of affection and attention; Buddy's favorite way to express his love is to just hold me and talk! I tend to go by the "letter of the law" in most circumstances whereas Buddy is much more lenient. His affability balances my strict nature. All along my heavenly Father knew what was best for me and was preparing us in different ways to complete one another’s needs. I am utterly convinced that because I "Delight(ed) myself in the Lord he gave me the desires of my heart." (Psalm 37:4) So, if you find yourself in a situation where you feel like Job, praising God as best you can, but enduring the frustration of wanting to find the perfect mate, the perfect job, or some other need:
ninetyandnine.com Article © Debbie Goff, 2000 -------- Debbie Goff is a budding freelance writer, who lives in the Chicago area and has coached the Addison Illinois Quiz Team for 10 years. She’s learning to thank the Lord for every white hair that has sprouted recently, because she’s earned every one of them! Have an opinion on an article? Let us know how you feel! Click feedback & fill us in. |
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