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My Testimony
By Nita K. Curry It was dark as we sat in my car talking—getting to know each other—after months of class together. For some reason, she was really drawn to me and I saw it as a witnessing opportunity. I had been so sheltered since coming to the Lord that my witnessing opportunities just seemed to get slimmer and slimmer—so it was a welcome friendship. She had been educated in a private high school (the most prestigious school in our area) and I had been educated in public school, but now we were both getting our graduate degree in history. We were intrigued with each others’ differences and that began a fast friendship. This particular night she was pouring out her heart about a relationship that had gone bad. I sat and listened until she said, “Any couple who has dated for three or more months and has not slept with each other, there has to be something wrong with them!” I didn’t quite know what to say without sharing details I see as no one else’s business, so I politely told her, “My husband and I dated for almost three years before we got married and we never slept with each other.” She couldn’t believe it! But, it opened up a door for me to explain why I believed and lived this very strange concept of purity and that was eight years ago. Earlier this year I was with my friend again. In the course of our conversation I found out that she had a physical problem for years that prevented her from any type of intimate sexual relationship, but she was okay now. I suddenly I realized that our original conversation was a bit of a fraud! She was, in a round-about way, trying to make me think that she was a normal twentysomething who did what “everybody else is doing.” How many other times has this happened to me¾I’m in a conversation with someone and completely take what they say as if it is their modern lifestyle and I am hopelessly square? Yet, at least I live what I say! Romans 12:2 says, “And be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” I can’t help but laugh when people talk about how Apostolics are in bondage because we have convictions and scriptural beliefs when in reality it is those people who are the ones in bondage to the ‘conforming of this world.’ To me, waiting to get married wasn’t bondage, but freedom. I enjoy the freedom of knowing that there is something unique that only my husband and I have shared. But mostly, I’m so glad that I
made my decision long before I met my husband, because purity isn’t just a
“before-marriage” issue—it’s a day-to-day issue.
And it’s up to us to maintain that priority.
Because my husband and I waited before marriage, it makes our marriage
good (not always easy), acceptable (depending on our moods), perfect (never,
sometimes close), but always in the will of God. ninetyandnine.com
ã 2000, Nita K. Curry -------- Nita K. Curry is the Letter Page Editor of ninetyandnine.com. Have an opinion on an article? Let us know how you feel! Click feedback & fill us in. |
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