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Question

Men – Ask for Woman’s Hand?

1.      I think it's great...it's respectful, and it means a lot to both dad and myself.  It's my parents job to watch over me and keep me until I am married. Why shouldn't the guy ask if he can be the one to take that job!

2.      Definitely, I will ask the father. I even go the step farther to ask the father to date his daughter.

3.      My husband asked my dad if he could marry me¾it made me so nervous, but I felt honored that he felt like he needed to.

4.      My father has always been the kind of person to say, "She's a smart girl, she can make her own decisions." But I would like for my husband-to-be to care enough about my family to respect them in that area.

5.      It is important to me, but I know my parents have a respect that I will make the right decision about a future spouse

6.      Yes, I think it's very important. It shows me that first of all he respects my father, and second that he loves and respects me enough to ask for me!

7.      My parents were divorced, but my husband did ask my mother's permission.

8.      Yes, mmm, doesn't really matter, it's sweet, but not a must,

9.      Even though I think it is something that is stupid, it is very polite, and grown up.

10.  Absolutely! It's all about respecting him and her family.  I think it's a wonderful tradition that I hope someday my son-in-law will also respect.

11.  Yeah, I asked her dad.

12.  I don't think it’s necessarily important, but it is very romantic and considerate.

13.  Yes (I asked), her dad said I should take the whole body instead of the hand only (True story). Respect for my wife-to-be and her father.

14.  I won’t even go out with a guy unless he talks to my dad first. Maybe that’s old-fashioned , but if a guy is too scared to talk to your dad, what is he going to do if something happens on the date where he has to protect you? Just something to think about.

15.  I want to, but I'm a wuss so I probably won’t.

 

For one man’s experience, check out:  To Ask or Not to Ask (for her Hand in Marriage),
That is The Question
 (Ephemera, January 10, 2000)

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