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Question
#4 Old-Fashioned, Traditional or Principled?
By
Cara Baker HIM:
I will IM first AGAIN....... I'm wondering if girls are becoming
more aggressive these days with the advent of modern technology. I'm wondering
if guys are even noticing or caring. I'm wondering if waiting for the guy to
call or email is viewed as old-fashioned. To me, while emailing or IMing (Instant
Messaging) a guy on the Internet is decidedly more casual, it's almost the same
as calling him. What's the big deal with that? Well, if
I'm willing to call a guy up, I'm probably willing to ask him out, too.
And I believe those initiating roles belong to the male. Not to get
bogged down with the biblical principle of headship over one measly coffee date
or a nightly Internet conversation, but it's the little foxes that spoil the
vine, if you know what I mean. Plus, letting the guy initiate matters
will help put respect toward the girl in its proper place. When the girl is all
too eager to make the first moves, she will soon be taken for granted. This recent exchange (above) between a
male friend and me over AOL Instant Messenger reaffirmed results of the Romance
Survey when 17 percent of the females said they would ask a guy out and an
overwhelming 68 percent of guys said they would accept! Most females, out of the 83 percent
that said they would not ask a guy out, sheepishly admitted feeling "old
fashioned" or "traditional." The only place it's viewed as
old-fashioned is in a secular media molded by years by the effects from feminist
movements. Let’s stop taking cues from women's lib and start placing trust in
the "tradition" of biblical principles. "I believe there is a place of
direction in every relationship," one answered. "A man has a God-given
obligation to provide that direction or leadership in any romantic relationship.
I believe that a man should ask initially to begin at ground zero in that
obligation." That response echoed the words of
Christian author Elisabeth Elliot in Quest
for Love. "As a single woman I had no question that it was man's
responsibility to do the wooing," writes Elliot. "[A man] must learn
to hold back his 'hunter' instinct, praying, watching, and trusting God to show
him what to do and when. When he is shown, he is to act, accepting the demands
of his headship and the sacrifice that goes with it." ninetyandnine.com
Article © 2000, Cara Baker ------- Cara Baker answers IMs from Ohio these days. |
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