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"Let
him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than
wine." -
Song of Soloman 1:2 "Don't
have to be rich to be my girl Exposé: The French KissBy
Cara Baker Few
topics ignite more diverse opinions than French kissing. In
our survey, only three percent of respondents (all male!) answered
"never" when asked if couples should French kiss. Forty-three percent
of Apostolics said that's the way everyone does kisses, while 25 percent say
they would wait a few months in a relationship before French kissing. "It
took me three years of dating before I even kissed [my girlfriend]," says
Aaron Wojcik, 18, a freshman at Tennessee Tech in Cookeville, Tenn. "But
I'm just the kind of guy that has trouble reading a girl's mind, and then
worries what she will think. It took me that long to be able to know how she
felt without asking. That's when cool things like French
kissing happens, when you know the person and are comfortable with them. That
takes more than one date. "If
you French kiss someone because you really like/love them and it's a sincere
show of affection, I don't think that's a sin," Wojcik says. "I don't
know how everybody does it and that's kind of weird that those who answered 'C'
do know how everybody else kisses. Of course, I didn't even know what it was
until I saw Honey, I Shrunk the Kids." Maybe
a majority answered “That’s how everyone kisses” because the media's
omnipresence makes it appear that "Frenching" is normal dating
behavior for young adults today. Most viewers seem to believe that anything that
appears on the screen, be it big or small, is truth, as opposed to fictionalized
characterizations and scenes. The real question then becomes how does a
Christian respond to this deluge of fictionalized truth? "I
don't think that French kissing is how everyone does it, and even if that is
true, it doesn't make it right," says 20-year-old Jessica Bentley of
Marietta, Ohio. "The spirit that causes worldly people to be sexually
promiscuous in the area of fornication is the same spirit that drives Apostolic
young people to frivolously kiss everyone in sight. I do not that think free,
casual kissing and making out is right in the eyes of God or right for us." Although
the majority say they're saving sex for marriage (75 percent), a lot of
Apostolics feel comfortable with the level of intimacy French kissing reaches.
"I don't see how it can be avoided," 22-year-old Jonathan Sherrill of
Hatton, Alabama. "I'll probably continue to do it. I agree that it's
probably not a good idea. Because what happens when that loses the thrill? It
leads to more." Brittanica.com
describes French kissing as: "Deep kissing, in which the tongue is used to
explore the other person's mouth, usually occurs in an erotic context, either to
express affection or as a means of sexual arousal. Among primates, kissing as an
inducement to sexual readiness is unique to humans." Not
only does it cause sexual arousal, but often emotions get confused in the
process, says Bentley, who has a Bachelor's Degree in psychology. "Kissing,
just like any other sexual act, creates a bond between two people," Bentley
says. "When one goes around casually kissing, especially French kissing, it
leaves them frustrated, disappointed, and confused. It is much easier for
someone to use a member of the opposite sex when they are willing to make out
freely. If one wants to guard their heart, I would not recommend a free-for-all
in the grounds of any type of intimacy, whether it be physical (kissing,
petting, etc.) or emotional." ninetyandnine.com
ã 2000, ninetyandnine.com --------- Cara Baker currently
lives in Ohio. |
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