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The Brotherhood of Man

By Kent d Curry
September 23, 2002

Of course I love him, he’s my brother. But that doesn’t mean I think about him much. He’s different than me. I mean, we haven’t done much together since I got that mall job at 16. I suppose we were all buddy-buddy before that, fighting, swimming lessons together, swinging in the tree swing, youth socials, stuff like that. Fighting. One summer, the year after we moved, we played Monopoly every day of the week with neighborhood friends—even on weekends and after Sunday school. I almost always won. Then I started my own life, my real life in the real world.

And we were together at Central. Not that we did a lot together there. I mean, between college prep classes, the National Honor Society, and student council, I didn’t have much time to hang with sophomores. Besides, he was busy with his friends and stumbling through general-ed classes. Mr. Popular, that’s what he was. There wasn’t a teacher or a girl in that school he didn’t sweet-talk. I think he was a class officer every year, too. No one ever bothered to look beneath the mask. It was high school. They just get attracted by the looks, the quick quip and the charm. I’ll give him credit there, Dougie’s charm was off the scale.

Still, even though he did stuff at school, he really only hung with church friends. That’s where all the attention came from after Mom’s thing. It’s like the whole church adopted him. Of course, that’s easy when you can both speak and sing. Who cares if you earn college scholarships, control your credit cards, or have a great work ethic? At church, you only exist if you can speak or sing.

It’s still that way. Sometimes when I’m out of town for work I’ll attend a Pentecostal church. Or I’ll run into church people at restaurants or the airport or wherever and if they find out I’m a Sullivan, they’ll ask if I’m related to Douglas. “Douglas”—like he’s some kind of celebrity or something. Just because he evangelizes all hot-’n-firey, they think he’s a big deal. “Oh he preached my Youth Week and I was so blessed.” “I’ll never forget that time at camp, when…” “Are you the brother that used to beat him at Monopoly?” Stuff like that. And I’m just supposed to smile and agree, all the time thinking, ‘Preaching’s all great and stuff, but how’s he going to support his family when the time comes? Am I going to be bailing him out then, too?’

Actually, that’s a perfect example—he expects me to be friendly to his friends, but when does he make any efforts with mine?

Like my last birthday. We always get together, the two of us, because our birthdays are so close, and have our annual Big Dog Chowdown. Sometimes he out-eats me and sometimes I out-eat him, but we always laugh and have a great time. Just like Thanksgiving brunch with all the uncles used to be. We talk football and friends and news and growing up days. He even turns off his cell phone. I fill him in on my latest promotion and raise, he’s always got a couple of great road stories to share about strange waitresses, odd food in local Southern diners, and weird tourist traps like the House of Glass. It’s a good time. Or was.

Anyway, he called to set it up and I said fine, but I wanted Belicia to come along. He didn’t have to pay for her, she’d just come along.

He stuttered something about the Chowdown tradition of us two.

This year’s different, I said. Belicia’s coming along. I want her to come along.

He said something like—oh, I don’t remember—something like, “I was hoping just the two of us could go out to eat. As part of your present. Like usual.” In other words—not Belicia. How rude is that? I mean, just because Dad has trouble with her doesn’t mean Dougie should get all high and mighty about it. I know how some of his girlfriends went. Love ’em and leave ’em and all that.

I mean, what’s the big deal if she eats out with us? I’m probably going to marry her anyway, so they might as well get used to her.

And why does he even have to take sides? It’s not like we’re hurting him. When do we even see him? I mean, now that Dad’s losing it, he thinks he has to make it clear whose side he’s on, like it’s going to make some big difference in my life. Like I’ll come back to church because he stands for truth.

Anyway, we never did go out, so now when he calls, if he calls, Belicia doesn’t even say hi, she just hands me the phone. Serves him right. I’m not even sure he got me a present.

Not that that’s a loss! I mean, he won’t buy me anything on my list. He says a list is self-serving. He’s wrong—it’s practical. Listing five items I want saves him time because he chooses just one. Plus, it assures me that I get something I like. (I still don’t know what I’m going to get when he chooses off the list.) Belicia and Dad don’t have a problem with it, why should he?

However, a list is not “from his heart” so it’s self-serving. So every year I end up with ties or CDs—always Christian, of course—or whatever “his heart” thinks up. Like he has any idea what I like.

He does that kind of stuff just to prove he can do it. It’s like when we were playing Monopoly that summer and he landed on my Boardwalk. He paid me all in Ones. Just to aggravate me. Because of that, I squished him like the bug he was on the very next round.

I thought the point was to be a support, not do your own thing. So, I’m supposed to attend his revivals when he’s in town, just to “show support,” but when I have something for him to attend? Well, that’s a different story.

Like, when the Heart Association was going to throw that special banquet honoring the state’s largest three fund-raisers, Dougie said, “Just let me know when it is and I’ll be there. Don’t worry about me.” But when the banquet arrived, it was a different story. Something came up. Great opportunity. Lots of preachers there. Make contacts and bless others. So he preached. “Don’t worry about me!” he said.

At least Dad showed up for that one. Dougie said he read the newspaper story.

I don’t even remember his lame apology. Like, what kind of Christian is that? Everyone thinks he so holy, but they don’t see this side of him.

I mean, he hasn’t shown up at the family reunions on Mom’s side either. I mean, what’s the deal with that? This is the only time we get to see any of them every year and he’s always got to preach out of town?

Maybe it’s the girls. I had my crazy time before Belicia. Dad said he’s dating some redhead in Louisiana now, but so what? It won’t last. Who was the last one? Some local chick named Mayfield. Brad’s sister Rebecca. That one didn’t last long at all. Dad said her nose was too big. Like, Dougie couldn’t tell that before he asked her out? Knowing Rebecca, she still likes him and knowing Dougie, he’s still trying to be “just friends.”

I think he broke up with her because she wanted to attend weekend revivals with him, sing or something before he preached. Ha! That was a mistake! Cut into his freedom. Keep him from finding the next one. No wonder he noticed her big nose after that.

I could’ve saved them both some trouble by telling him to actually look at her face and telling her to look at his actions. Not that they would’ve asked, but I could’ve told them that much anyway.

So sure I love him. He’s my brother. We’re just different.

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© 2002, Kent d Curry

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Kent d Curry is the executive editor of ninetyandnine.com.

 


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