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Print A friend calls me and unloads about his fear of losing his job. Usually I am sympathetic to people in this situation, but this time I just couldn’t be. I knew the details this time and I knew that he was in the wrong. He had made some bad choices and then he didn’t want to accept responsibility. I try to be the good friend and listen, but when this is the 3rd, 4th, even 5th time this has happened, how much sympathy am I supposed to have? Maybe it was the overexposure to the sun (I had been outside all day), but I felt this need just to tell him what I knew had truly happened. I broke it to him. He was behaving irresponsibly and it was time to grow up. He began to justify his actions, but I just could not listen anymore. I have been accused of being blunt and harsh at times, but that is something that I pray about and have worked on. The situation left me questioning my actions and if I had done the right thing. Did I speak too hastily or did I do the right thing by telling him the truth. It seems that is one of the problems I often face. What do I say? When people ask for my advice or opinion, I have always been the one to offer the truth. Looking back, I can see where some of my comments have come across as brutal, but I have only done what they asked me to do. I am not true to myself if I don’t tell the truth. Something that I have caught myself doing of late is countering their questions with “Do you want me to lie to you or tell you the truth?” It is a joke, but those who know me know that is my way of saying that I can sugar coat it or I can tell it like it is. Just a Face or More… I was having a discussion with a group of friends after church the other night and the topic of the opposite sex came up. The guys began to describe their ideal woman. I was shocked. They all pretty much offered this image of a Barbie-dollish woman who dressed to the nines and treated them like kings. As we went into deeper conversation, they had similar opinions about how they should behave. They had to be sweet and friendly, but not too outgoing. Their visions continued, as my surprise grew. I realized I was talking to a group of guys who wanted a woman that had great looks but no brain. Maybe women are different. Most of the women I know that are single are looking for men who are a multitude of things. They want someone that can carry on a conversation with them. They want a man who is the spiritual leader in the relationship, but who isn’t so dominating that he can’t accept their input. There was a book that was popular a few years back titled, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I am beginning to believe there is a factual basis to this theory. Too Dependent on Computers? My computer caught a virus. I don’t know how and frankly at this point, I don’t care. I never knew I depended on it so much. I felt lost. I wasn’t able to log on and check my morning mail, I couldn’t do my banking, I couldn’t even access my daily inspirational messages. I felt like my link to the outside world was cut. Everything I had been working on for the past several years was on my computer. I know this sounds silly, but it felt like a part of me was gone. After Day 3 of no access, I began to reflect. Was I too dependent on my PC? Should I look for other outlets and not just focus on this one? My answer was definitely yes. What if this was to happen again (and it very well could with all the yucky viruses floating around)? I don’t like to have all my so-called eggs in one basket. I realized I needed to spread my resources out. I shouldn’t utilize something so much because problems can arise. My computer will be restored shortly and everything will be back to normal, but I know that I have learned an important lesson. In a world that is run by technology, I am going to try and hang on to more tangible things and guard my “stuff” a little more closely. I’m also going to push the keyboard away more and get outside.
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