7.31.2005

Ms. Epitome of the (Non-Desperate) Single White Female -- That's Me!

Well, special thanks to my buds Chantell and Lee Ann, my co-workers and everyone else out there who's rooting for me in this whole DateLance thing. So far, all of you seem to think he’ll call. If he does, I promise you will be the first to know. In the meantime, don’t pucker up to a chicken. They won’t be growing lips until I see a Utah zip code on my caller ID. However, some of you have e-mailed me with a few questions about all this, and I thought I’d take this opportunity to answer them all at once.

You do realize that this guy is Mormon, right???
Honey, at this point in my life, I’d date a good Buddhist – wait, I mean, of course I realize he’s Mormon. Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints typically aren’t Catholic, for pete’s sake!

Wouldn't you feel a little hesitant dating a guy named Lance Archibald, seeing as how Archibald is a pretty funny last name?
Oh. As if Scoggins isn’t.

Are you desperate for a man or what???
Or what. Of course I’m not desperate! I’m thoroughly enjoying this single period in my life . . . I can travel wherever I want as often as I want, chat up any single guy I want, apply to date as many strange Mormon guys as I want, dress up and spend all my spare time hanging out at Academy or Gander Mountain because that’s the best place I know of to meet men, applying for a second job at Sport Clips because that’s the second best place I know of . . . Desperate? Me? Never.

Are you aware that there’s nothing “glorified” about this Garbage Dump where we work???
Right, boss, whatever you say!

Will you marry me???
Sure!!! But first, um, what’s your name? Where do you live? And what do you look like? You are a guy, right? Wait, can I wait and see if Lance calls first? I hear the chances are like, 10,000 to one . . .


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7.29.2005

The Attraction Factor (Wendy's Version)

I usually do not use my blog to comment on many ninetyandnine.com articles unless it’s to say something positive about the article. However, after reading Ellie Neumannn’s article entitled The Attraction Factor (Female Version), Joseph Castorina’s rebuttal entitled The Real Attraction Factor (God’s Version), and all the letters that followed (which you can read here and here), I e-mailed some personal comments off to some friends of mine. Both of them, without knowing of the other, strongly encouraged me to publish my comments in my blog. Therefore, I decided to bend one of my own rules a little and express my opinion about the current controversy raging over at ninetyandnine.com, so here goes:

While I appreciate the valid points Joseph Castorina makes in his rebuttal of Ellie Neumann’s article as well as those made by the letter writers, I can’t help but feel that Ellie’s primary premise, for the most part, remains misunderstood. Ellie’s article was written for those young ladies who desire to be married, but didn’t realize they could fix themselves up better. Although most women are aware of what makes them attractive and unattractive, some women don’t have a clue and need others to make some tactful suggestions. Ellie’s view is not insecure, but realistic, as well as honest and gutsy. She seems to understand something that has been around long before Esther fixed herself up for King Ahasuerus -- the necessity and power of physical attraction in a romantic relationship.

In his article, Joseph Castorina mentions the beauty of his wife several times, but claims he married her because of her walk with God. This is something I have heard quite a few times from men: that they married their wives because of spiritual reasons, not because of her looks. That always causes me to wonder: would he have married his wife if she had weighed four hundred pounds, had cystic acne and wore coke bottle glasses? I believe the truth is that a man falls in love with the whole package: his wife's inner beauty and her outward beauty, which is how it should be. After all, a woman wants to be loved for everything she is, and that includes her looks. No woman wants to hear her beloved say, “Honey, I married you because I adore your walk with God. Otherwise, I think you’re funny looking.”

Our society has an unhealthy obsession about looks, and I agree that such a mindset is too prevalent in our churches; however, the church should not react to society’s excesses by espousing the opposite extreme that says looks are superficial and should not matter at all. Looks are a prominent (although not the only) factor in forming physical attraction, which contributes to the foundation of romantic relationships.

I cannot agree that Ellie Neumann “shamed” her friend into compromising her beliefs in order to attract the man who became her husband. First of all, we cannot assume the young woman attends a church where dyed hair is preached against, or that she holds a personal conviction against it. Although it’s difficult to find scripture against hair coloring, holding a belief against it is a legitimate conviction. However, I must admit I find it somewhat inconsistent that those who would criticize someone for having dyed hair often have no problems with wearing colored contacts, whitening one’s teeth, tanning one’s skin, wearing pantyhose or any other activities that temporarily change the appearance and color of one’s skin, eyes, teeth or nails.

Second, Ellie’s friend was not depriving herself of being loved for who she is. Hair color changes only the color of the hair, not who a person is. It is more realistic to believe that the young woman’s more natural hair coloring simply caused the young man to notice her. That’s normally how the process works: a man finds a woman attractive and that causes him to want to get to know her better. From there, if he falls in love with everything else about her, he marries her (providing the feeling is mutual). You’d be hard-pressed to find a man who could honestly admit he had romantic feelings for a woman he didn’t find outwardly attractive. For those who would label that superficial, I have to say that a person’s personality goes a long way in making him or her physically attractive, which is why I stated above that looks aren’t the only factor that comprises physical attraction.

I wonder how much of our disagreement on this issue stems simply from imprecise semantics, and I wonder how much we’d all agree on this issue if we could hammer out a precise definition of “shallow.” In closing, I think we should recognize that our ladies want to present themselves attractively, a God-given desire that shouldn’t be criticized or shamed. Meanwhile, we should teach both our young men and ladies proper balance and God’s view of outward beauty: that He created beauty for our enjoyment, but we have to be careful not to put too much stock in it because it isn’t lasting. Hopefully that’s something we can all agree on.

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7.27.2005

My Application to www.DateLance.com

Over at A Month in my Life, Lee Ann recently posted a link to an article about a guy whose friends posted his picture on a billboard in an effort to find him a date. Intrigued, I followed the link and then visited the website mentioned in the article. You'll have to visit the website to find out why I thought it was so amusing, but in fact, I found it so amusing I thought it would be funny to apply for a date with the guy.

I thought that was rather generous of me, seeing as how the poor guy has teeth like Angelina Jolie's. However, I was rather proud of my application, which I have posted below strictly for your entertainment. (Yes, that's how much I love you!)

Name
Wendy Scoggins

Age
3 months shy of 25

Occupation
Glorified Paper Shuffler at a Glorified Garbage Dump (Okay, I'm a Waste Tracking Coordinator for a Hazardous Waste Treatment Plant, but keeping track of garbage is boring so I'm going to school to be a Graphic Designer.)

Phone
[Note: I’m not publishing this. If you want to know, ask me yourself!]

E-mail
[You should already know this one.]

Please Describe Yourself (Check all of the following that apply): I checked:
Friendly
Spiritual
Easygoing
Outgoing
Smart
Funny
Passionate

I did not check:
Shy
Patient [I used to think I was patient; then I had a kid and found out otherwise.]
Athletic
Scholarly
Mild-mannered

What is your idea of the perfect first date with Lance?
Bowling. You can tell a lot about a person by watching the way he or she bowls. What, exactly, you can tell about them I’m not sure. However, I’m sure there’s some fashion magazine editor out there who’s just dying to articulate to us women “Ten Things You Can Find Out About a Man by Watching Him Bowl.” Perhaps such an article has already been written, but I wouldn’t know about that as I’m more a fan of magazines like “Budget Living” which should be rather indicative of what they think I’m worth over at the Glorified Garbage Dump. However, I try not to let that get to me.

Otherwise, I think bowling would be fun because then a guy would be able to see right off how many left feet I have (precisely 1,857) when it comes to sports and how good-natured I am about my inherent clumsiness. We southern belles only think highly of sophistication when being that way will result in our receiving chocolate.

Please write a paragraph or short essay about why you should date Lance?
It would probably be rude to point out that the above sentence really doesn’t require a question mark, but I’ll go easy on you since I suppose it’s pretty obvious that you all aren’t English majors.

Why should I date Lance? Well, it’s not so much that I want to date Lance (seeing as how I’ve never even met him) as much as it is that I think what you guys are doing is abominably crazy, embarrassingly cheesy and not just a little off the wall. In other words, this sort of thing is right up my alley.

Can I ask Lance a question? (I think it’s only fair, seeing as you guys are asking so many of me.) If Lance chooses to be as prolific as his parents, would he consider adopting a few of his offspring? I ask NOT because I’m not exactly salivating at the thought of being barefoot and pregnant for ten years solid, but because there are many kids in this world already who need good homes. (Think: Third World Orphans.) Plus I’m not the type who insists on parenting nothing other than tiny versions of myself seeing as how this world is bad enough as it is already.

Well, thank you very much for reading my application, and Lance, I wish you the best in this search for true love that was rather suddenly thrust upon you. I must say, I think very highly of your friends for not posting any pictures of you without your shirt. We fine Christian women of the world thank you for that.

Submit a photo of the person who wants to date Lance: (JPG or GIF)
















Unlike Lee Ann . . .
I would not mind if I had the sort of friends who would rent a billboard and stick up a "Date Wendy" sign, provided they were to use a flattering photo. I'm not above embarassing myself a little in order to meet and hang out with a bunch of guys. How much fun would that be!


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Alice and the White Lie

Ah . . . freedom. This is my week off from school, and I've been savoring every possible minute of it -- away from my computer. I'd apologize, but I'd rather think you guys understand how it is.

Anyhow, someone sent me a joke via e-mail yesterday, and I don't usually post jokes I get that way. However, this one was so cute and original I couldn't resist sharing it with you:

Alice was to bake a cake for the church ladies’ group bake sale, but she forgot to do it until the last minute.

She baked an angel food cake and when she took it from the oven, the center had dropped flat. She said, "Oh dear, there’s no time to bake another cake." so she looked around the house for something to build up the center of the cake. Alice found it in the bathroom . . . a roll of toilet paper.

She plunked it in and covered it with icing. The finished product looked beautiful, so she rushed it to the church. Before she left the house for her son’s ball game, Alice gave her daughter some money and specific instructions to be at the bake sale the minute it opened, buy that cake and bring it home.

When the daughter arrived at the sale, the attractive cake had already been sold.

After the game, a fancy lunch was served, and to top it off, the cake in question was presented for dessert.

When Alice saw the cake, she started to get out of her chair and rush into the kitchen to tell her hostess all about it. Before she could get to her feet, one of the other ladies said, "What a beautiful cake!"

Alice sat back in her chair when she heard the hostess, a prominent church member, say, "Thank you. I baked it myself!"

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7.21.2005

Blog Buddies

Well, I apologize for my sporadic blogging this week, but it’s finals week at school. Ugh. However, some of my friends have posted really great entries this week, and I thought I’d point you to some of them. Thankfully, we don’t all slack off at the same time, huh?

Shana over at
If Only It Were Fiction, gives her take on the controversial article published by ninetyandnine last week, The Attraction Factor (Female Version) and the storm of letters that followed in response. Says Shana,

“I think the article is a well-written, honest shot in the arm that Apostolic women need to hear. The unattractive appearance of many of our women is a taboo topic that gets swept under the rug, or a ‘you're beautiful on the inside’ bandaid gets thrown on it. Understand that my humble opinion comes from a girl who doesn't fit the tall, thin blonde model . . .”

Chantell at
Where You Can Find Me writes about change:

“It’s not a negative thing, necessarily. More often than not, it’s a good thing. Life is wrapped up in it. It depends on it. If things were the same all the time, nothing would ever grow. But for some reason, it’s always bittersweet to me. It always gets me teary-eyed and unable to articulately express myself. It’s always an unexplainable feeling that possesses me, that inhabits the outside lining of my heart that just aches and yearns.”

Kimberly of
Originally Unoriginal offers us an analogy that presents a fresh view of grace:

“You are sitting there saying, 'Yeah right! That would never happen.' Physically speaking, it wouldn't happen because we are human. However, spiritually speaking, it's exactly what God does for us everyday.”

Lee Ann writing for
A Month in My Life asks us a very serious question:

“Are flip-flops a no-no for church?”

She’s taking a vote, so click your way over there and offer up your opinion. Here’s mine: anytime church buildings want to take down the “Flip-Flop Free Zone” signs is fine with me.


Thanks, ladies, for freeing me up from having to think today!

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7.19.2005

The School Duel: Feedback

Obviously, when it comes to public schools vs. private schools vs. home schools, not everyone agrees with me. That’s okay because we all know who’s right anyway. (You, the decision-making parent :) Thanks to everyone who sent in the hearty “Amens!” but I thought I’d showcase some opinions that look at the situation a bit differently than I do, whether they agreed with me or not.

Apostolic Private Schools
“One piece of your argument I think you overlook is that private schools with the ‘quality education’ are most likely are not Apostolic private schools. Most Apostolic private schools are just like Apostolic colleges: not accredited and not primarily focused on education (yes, that sounded entirely too snarky, but it's for the most part true). I would rather my child learn from a non-Apostolic college graduate than a high school graduate preacher's wife filled with the Holy Ghost. And knowing a lot of kids from ‘Christian’ schools growing up, I can assure you they need a good influence in their lives too, and they need to know the truth as well.

“If I send my child to private school, it will most likely be one of the best schools for education in this area: Either the Nazarene school or the Baptist one. [My daughter] will be a witness to those kids and a ‘missionary’ there just like she would be at a public school (which if they continue to improve like they have done recently in our area, then public school will be a great option for her). As you know, just because it's labeled Christian, doesn't make it so.”

Homeschooling Pros and Cons
“You talked about homeschooling: Both of my kids have been homeschooled over the past two years. They will enter public school this year. The big bogeyman of homeschooling – ‘socialization’ -- has not been a problem for us. My daughter is very shy, but my son is very outgoing and interacts well with adults and with other children.


"With this self-imposed ghetto Christians are putting ourselves into, there are community impacts of home and private schooling. I think there are serious social consequences to restricting ourselves and our children to people that think, look, dress, talk, believe, and act the same as us. I've made an effort to know and like my neighbors -- these are the people that look after my house when I'm out of town or bring the dog in if it gets out in the middle of the day, not the people in my church who all live in another town 15 miles away. Keep in mind that the kids your child goes to school today with will be the business leader she networks with 20 or 30 years from now.

“My son (age 10) is an excellent reader and loves science and history. In math he's at about 2nd grade level. His penmanship is that of a first grader. In my opinion, homeschooling has been a disaster for him.”

A Sensible Homeschool Advocate
“As the husband of a homeschooling wife (you called that one right in our family) let me share just a few thoughts.


“We have people in all three categories in our church — homeschool, private, and public. It has been my observation that kids in public school almost never do as well spiritually as the other two categories. This could be because public schools are staffed to a large degree by teachers and administrators steeped in postmodern philosophy. Even if they don’t attack Christianity, per se, they are instilling the idea there is no such thing as absolute truth and that we are to be tolerant of all beliefs. So much for ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life…..,’ and ‘no man comes to the Father except through me.’

“Then there is the influence of the other kids. Kids who are medicated, kids who have few limits, kids who have horrible family lives, etc. Homeschoolers are often accused of not socializing their kids, to which I would reply, ‘There are some kids I don’t want my children to socialize with.’ My kids have zero problems with social behavior. Great mission field??? Yes, but expecting a child to be able to resist all of these influences is a tall order. Resisting them and taking the initiative to witness of the Lord Jesus Christ is a step beyond the tall order.

“Add to this that many Christian parents are just not all that involved in their child’s education, and really don’t know what kinds of things they are learning when they are in a public school. Granted the same could probably be said of Sunday school as well!

Sadly, it has been my experience that ‘Christian’ adults have trouble influencing their immediate world for Christ, let alone asking a child to do this. Peer pressure is a powerful thing, and true Christian children would have to have a lot on the ball to resist the overwhelming negative peer pressure.

“My advice to parents who have their children in public school is this: Stay on top of what your child is learning. Check out the curriculum, check out the books, check out the teacher, join the PTA (if it’s still around), volunteer for school functions. Watch your child’s behavior to see if anything seems to be changing. Discuss what is wrong with some of the things they are being taught if they are in conflict with the scriptures.

“I have a problem with homeschoolers that don’t give their children a quality education. We need to equip our children to operate in this world as adults. I plan on exposing my children to the theory of evolution so they will have a working knowledge of what the evolutionists believe. [My daughter], who has just completed her fifth year of homeschool has already taken two years of Latin and one year of French. [My son] is taking Latin as well. All of our children will because we (that is to say, my wife :) are giving them what is known as a classical education. The kind they used to give in public schools many moons ago.

“Home schooled graduates can run for public office; they can become teachers and teach in the public school system, they can become influencers in high places. One that I know of, who has written a book my wife uses, is a college professor.

“It may not be an option for you (as a single mom) at this point in your life; private school may be too expensive (and even they have some issues); maybe the public schools in south Texas still have old fashioned morality, values, and absolutes taught there. If public school is your choice, or if it’s the only option for you, then follow my advice above.

“Ok, off my soap box! You’re right, it is a hot button topic among parents, and I genuinely sympathize with your plight as a single parent. But, the Lord is with you! And with your daughter! And He will help and guide you in your decisions.

“BTW, how do you throw an omnipresent God out of the school system?”

Plus: Go read why one mother felt E-mail me! I reserve the right to quote you unless you ask otherwise.

7.18.2005

Happy Birthday, Gabrigail Van Burden!

Ninetyandnine's beloved advice columnist, Gabrigail Van Burden, celebrates her 100th column -- and her 100th year -- by sharing the most important lesson she's ever learned in her life. Go check it out here.

Gabby's been quite an icon since 90&9's inception five years ago, and I often find her advice to be more dead-on and relevant than those of her peers, Abby and Ann. I've even written her a time or two myself, and applying her advice saved me a lot of heartache. So, Gabby (someone tell her to read today's entry, won't you?), allow me to personally congratulate you and thank you for sharing your heart with all of us readers of 90&9 for the past five years. I know for a fact that you've helped at least one person, but I have a feeling I'm not alone in that. You've been a blessing to us all.

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7.15.2005

On My Soapbox!

The 3 Foot Genius turns five this year, and I am in the process of making some decisions concerning her future in the area of formal education. Five thousand years ago when I was a kid, there was no decision to be made concerning formal education. You sent your kids off to kindergarten when they turned five and that was that. Now, however, we have more options:

  1. Public School – where your child will be indoctrinated according to the Godless agendas of atheists and homosexuals; or
  2. Private School – where your child will get a quality education and better advantages that will help them get into the best colleges; or
  3. Home School – where parents (okay, let’s be honest – the mother) can firmly and lovingly instill into their children a rich education consisting of both academic and spiritual pursuits.

At least, those are the options from the slant of the gung-ho private school/home school advocates. This outline of options is usually followed by irrefutable facts and statistics why private school/home school is best for all children. Sometimes, those of us who would rather send our children to public school are shamed into giving reasons that sound like nothing more than petty justification in the face of such seemingly ironclad reasoning. Clearly, it’s a hot-button issue among parents today, especially Christian parents.

(Thankfully, my excuse for not home schooling/private schooling my daughter is watertight – I’m a single mom who can’t afford the luxury – and make no mistake, they are luxuries to me – of those options, one of the admittedly few advantages of being a broke single mom!)

Although I have no concrete statistics (I’m too lazy to look them up), judging by the number of couples I meet quite frequently who’ve withdrawn their children from public schools (or never enrolled them), I think it's safe to say that the number of private or home schooled Christian children has skyrocketed in the past decade or so.

The Degeneration of Public Schooling
It’s easy to see why – public schools are the target of everyone who has an agenda to promote, and most of those agendas are decidedly anti-Christian. After all, if you want to indoctrinate a nation to the benefit of your cause, there’s no better place to begin than the classroom. The atheists, the homosexual activists, the Eastern Religions – all of them realize this basic fact and have inundated the schools with their sweet-sounding videos and innocent-looking curriculum. They’ve basically taken advantage of a Godless America to promote a Godless classroom. As they’ve achieved that with stunning success, it’s no wonder Christian parents have withdrawn their children to safer pastures.

Nightclubs and Public Schools Have a Lot in Common
Y’know, there are many places in America one can go and be almost guaranteed not to meet a Christian, especially here in the Bible (thumpin’ fundamentalist) Belt. Those places are bars, nightclubs, strip joints, etc. As an A/P, I was raised to believe that if I entered any one of those dens of iniquity, I’d have to leave my Holy Ghost at the door. Christians shun the places, so the devil gets to have a heyday inside. (Sinners have their bars, Christians have their churches, and never the twain shall meet.) Places like that have flourished because – IMHO – Christians haven’t turned them into spiritual war zones. Although we’re assured that the gates of hell won’t prevail against the church, it’s a rare Christian who’s willing to storm the gates of hell in the first place! Better just to avoid them altogether, or so they say.

"Good Riddance," Says Satan
So, um, what do bars have to do with public schools? Well, I’m getting to that: as public schooling becomes more wicked and Christians continue to leave, public schools could become like bars in that not one Christian can be found there! They could become just one more locale where the devil has free reign to influence and manipulate young, impressionable minds any way he likes!

Where there is a Spirit-filled Christian, there is also a devil quivering in fear. So why is it that we Christians who are given the power through Christ to tear down strongholds shun them instead? Aren’t we doing exactly what the devil wants us to? The devil doesn’t want us to invade his turf – he wants us to leave! And we Christians are leaving public schools in droves.

Schoolchildren – Missionaries for the 21st Century?
Let me back up for a minute and say that I can understand Christian parents don’t want make “spiritual martyrs” their children. I understand that Christian parents don’t want to have to de-program their children every time they come home from school concerning the things they’ve learned that day. I can understand the value of a good education that kids aren’t really getting in public schools.

However, I don’t think we’re seeing public schools for the mission field it really is. What if we began viewing our children as missionaries? What if we began spiritually equipping and training them to fight a holy war in their schoolyards? What if we sent them to school with tracts, or taught them how to pray for a friend? What if we taught them how to respectfully question the concepts being taught and do research independent of the classroom to find the real truth? What if we encouraged our teens to read and do book reports over books about chastity or self-control? Instead of acting as if the trials at school are just something to be endured until the end, what if we gave our children a vision that they could be catalysts for sweeping reformations on their campuses? What if we viewed the academic education of our children as secondary to their formation into warriors for Christ?

What’s the Answer? I Don’t Know.
I’m an idealistic dreamer, I know, but I’m also a fighter. I don’t like the idea of giving up on our schools and our nation’s youth, the future of our nation. My intent is not to criticize any parent for making the best decision for their child, but to ask if perhaps we should take a step back and look at the big picture, the long-term ramifications of today’s decisions. Your child is going to have to live under the rulers of tomorrow. We Christians will decide if those rulers have a Godly influence in their lives or not.

Of course, this is just a theory I’m throwing out there – a radical one that begs practical application. Maybe it’s not even a good idea or a realistic solution. However, I can’t shake the feeling that giving up and walking out on public schools is a bad idea. One day, when our children are living under a government created by people who were raised in Godless classrooms, I can’t help but think maybe they’ll regret the decisions we made for them. If taking prayer out of public schools has created a society as bad as it is today, think how much worse things could get if we took all the Christians out as well.

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7.13.2005

Free Reads for a Rainy Day

Mmmm. It’s a cold, rainy day outside, and here I sit on my hot chocolate break sipping (what else?) hot chocolate. There’s nothing better to do on a day like this than read a good book. Guess I’ll have to wait until I get home first.

To celebrate this dreary, yet dreamy and bookwormy day, I thought I’d direct your mouse towards some fantastic online libraries full of free Christian e-books. Oh, choices, choices . . .


Shall I send you to Christian Classics Ethereal Library, which contains works of such notables as Saint Augustine, E.M. Bounds, John Bunyan, Oswald Chambers, G.K. Chesterton, Alfred Edersheim, Soren Kierkegaard, Martin Luther, John Milton, Watchman Nee, and Thomas á Kempis? Or shall I direct your attention to the Christian Corps Book Catalog, with authors like A.W. Tozer, Smith Wigglesworth, and John Wesley?

Decisions, decisions . . . well, I guess I’ll you decide.


(Special thanks to Sites Unseen for the links and to Neil Carter, whose website directed me there.)

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7.11.2005

Another True Test of an Apostolic

From Anne in Texas:

You might be Apostolic if:

  1. You go to Wal-Mart to see your friends and look at the new fashion trends.
  2. You have ever been accused of wearing “fair” (fake hair) on a bad hair day.
  3. You go to a theme park in an ankle length denim skirt and a ¾” t-shirt and then complain when people stare at you like you’re nuts.
  4. Your youth group thinks the only way you can raise money is through a car wash or selling some sort of food – ie: peanut brittle.
  5. You have more hair accessories than most stores.
  6. You have as many dressy pairs of sandals as you can so you don’t have to wear hose.
  7. The amount of money you spend on hairspray exceeds your gas bill.
  8. The musicians at your church can tear it up, but none of them can read sheet music.
  9. You're considered an old maid if you're not married by age 18.
  10. You consider Bible college "higher education."
  11. When shopping for shirts, you always run it through the "Praise The Lord" test. This consists of raising your arms as high as you can, and if no belly shows, you’re good to go.
  12. Sunday and Wednesday mean no cooking or dishes.
  13. You can pronounce "Habakkuk."
  14. Mondays and Thursdays are the hardest days to wake up in the morning.
  15. Your “day of rest” includes 2 church services, choir practice, and Golden Corral.
  16. Your 2-year-old runs through Wal-Mart shouting, "Praise the Lord! Eb shamma dabba yamma yabba dooba! *clap, clap* Yes, Lord! Yes, Lord! Thank You, Jesus! Hallelujah!!"
  17. Growing up you baptized your cousins and siblings several times in the swimming pool.
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7.08.2005

London Update

This is a link to some great blogs and other up-to-the-minute sites about the London bombing. Check it out for news you probably wouldn't get anywhere else.

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7.07.2005

London Tragedy


Please continue to pray for the families of those killed and injured by the bombings in London yesterday.

You know, I just really don’t understand terrorists sometimes. Don’t they realize what acts of terrorism like this do to us British and American people?

Acts of terrorism help us find our backbone, our voice and our courage. Instead of causing us to cower in fear, they make us want to stand and fight even harder. They make us even more determined to root out evil wherever it is and eliminate it. I think terrorists have been given a clear warning today:

Make no mistake about it, you cowards, we will find you, we will fight you and we will shut you down. One small victory for you today will result in a thousand victories for us tomorrow. You'd better hide, you dogs, because we are coming for you!

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The True Test of an Apostolic

On my jaunts around the blogosphere yesterday, I discovered that some of the bigger bloggers are calling all Christian bloggers come up with some sort of test to see how well one fits within a respective religion. (Link thanks to Disert Paths.) To help out with my religion of expertise, I drew upon years of intensive field research and formulated the scientific list below to determine one's Apostolic standing. I'd advise you to check yourself against it in order to seek out your own salvation with fear and trembling.

You might be Apostolic if . . .
  1. You and all the girls you know own thirteen pairs of black shoes, eight black skirts, and five denim skirts.
  2. Everything in your bathroom is coated in hair and hairspray.
  3. You can quote your pastor better than you can quote scripture.
  4. You suspect that Sis. Bessie who sits on the pew in front of you dyes her hair.
  5. You’ve ever told a non-Apostolic Christian that you were praying for God to lead him/her into all truth.
  6. It’s just not a good service if you didn’t run the aisles at least once or twice.
  7. You’ve been told that your sideburns are too long.
  8. Someone's testimony made you blush.
  9. You can remember a time when poofs and bows were in style -- and the bigger the better!
  10. The Apostolic church across town is either “too strict” or “too liberal,” but yours is just right.
  11. You're a Democrat and most of your church people think you need to pray through over that.
  12. The service lasts shorter than the time you took to fix your hair for it.
  13. You speak in tongues on a roller coaster.
  14. Your pastor wears a shirt and tie to the church picnic.
  15. Your skirt length and hair length are the same.

Think you can do better? Of course you can! Send me your own checklist, and I'll be happy to post it in a future entry!

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7.06.2005

Sick to My Stomach

Y'know, I'm really getting sick of reading stories like this one, which is the story of eight-year-old Shasta Groene, the kidnapping and repeated molestation of her and her brother, and the murder of her brother and the rest of her family. Honestly, stories like this make me want to puke, and occurences of these kinds of tragedies aren't slowing down either. When are the American people going to realize that the molestation of a child is just as bad -- if not worse -- than murder itself and demand that offenders be punished accordingly? If Joseph Duncan had been given a life sentence or death penalty for his previous crimes, he never would have been released to molest, torture and murder again.

I wonder how God can continue to bless a nation that fails to protect its children and allows this kind of thing to happen repeatedly. We read in the Old Testament how God hated nothing worse than those who burned their children alive on the altars of Baal. As punishment for their sick, evil sins, the sovereignty of the nation of Israel crumbled, and God's people were lead captive into slavery by another country. Why do we think America would be immune from suffering a similar fate today?

I've never been much of a political activist, but I will probably write my representatives about this, and I urge you to do the same.
Here's a great website that will help you do just that; you can find the contact information for the president, your US representatives, your state representatives, or your local representatives, all from one website. Tell them America needs to repent!

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Comments on the Fourth, George Barna, and a Book Columnist

Ugh. Why is it that every time I get some time off from work, I always feel like I need more time off to recover? Yawn.

Oh well, that’s my gripe for the day. How was your Fourth? I spent mine in
Galveston again, doing more ministry among the residents of the streets, something that’s becoming a habit of mine. This time I had the privilege of praying with a prostitute. Talk about your new experiences! There were a lot more kids and families this time than there have ever been, and that was sad. Still, it was a blessing to do something to make a difference in the lives of some of those people, even if it was just a small one.

On a Slightly Less Depressing Note . . .
If you’re a fan of George Barna’s (as I am)
here’s an article you really should read. Here's a tidbit:

"The bottom line is that the spirituality served up in the name of Christ in the U.S. is distinctly unproductive and unprofitable. Some churches have remained largely unchanged while others have changed the ambiance, the music, the lighting, added video screens, pastors, elders, and websites. Others have embraced bigger buildings with different architectural features. Some have turned to new delivery systems, serving up their products via seminars, books, CDs, DVDs, live television and training by subscription satellite broadcasts. According to Barna, no matter what the Christian retail outlets have done to attract customers and change them by virtue of how or what they consume, there appears to be no measurable transformational effect on their behavior, after dining in these establishments over a period of time."


"It’s expensive to run a business like this, particularly when what one is serving up has eternal consequences. If the “church” in the U.S. [were] a publicly traded company on the NASDAQ or NYSE, there would be a shareholder revolt, SEC and Congressional investigations the likes of which would dwarf the outrage we witnessed over Enron. We would be toast."

As the problems with American Christianity reaches its boiling point and threatens to spill over, Apostolics, what are you doing to change things? I am convinced that we will never be a vehicle for change in today’s society unless we first change ourselves. So whaddya say, brothers and sisters, are you with me?

Let's End This On a Positive Note
By the way, if you haven't checked out
ninetyandnine's
A Month in My Life blog in a while, definitely stop by there when you a get a chance. Our July blogger is up, and she is none other than our own beloved book columnist. Go check her out; not only will you learn a lot from the bottomless pit of intellect that is her mind (okay, Lee Ann, am I making you blush yet?) but I also understand she has some great things to say about duct tape as well. Gosh, I don't think it gets much better than that!

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7.01.2005

The Classics Revisited: Part 3

Stress: Kill it Before it Multiplies! (From 01/13/05)

School started again last week. I'm already learning a lot this term, especially about stress. One thing I've observed about it:

Stress multiplies.

For instance, say the majority of your time is taken up by a full time job and being a full time student. The remaining precious particles of your time are parceled out to secondary priorities (no charge for all that alliteration, by the way) such as taking baths, reading a scripture or two, tickling your daughter, saying a quick prayer in the shower, grabbing a bite to eat, attending a church service, etc. This leaves little time for hanging out with your friends, so you’re forced to communicate through the phone or via e-mail:

“Hi! Just letting you know I'm still alive! I'll be back with a similar status report next week! Bye!”

Then imagine that the first week of school is made up of only three days rather than the normal seven offered by all respectable weeks. However, you are still assigned a full week's worth of assignments. The first thing to get lost in the shuffle is your prayer life, even as you mutter apologies to God on the way to work. The second thing that goes is your sleep, and the third thing is your looks – a ghostly pallor and a greasy granny knot do not a hot blogger make.

You’re relieved that Dimples -– I mean, your best friend who is also a guy -– is too busy himself to hang out with you. Your daughter refers to you as “that girl who lives across the hall.” She comes in every now and pats your head sympathetically. The floor in your room disappeared shortly after you decided you’d rather sleep than hang up your clothes. It’s 6 a.m. The assignment is due in a few hours. You’re almost done with it, and the bad news is that your instructor will probably hate it even though you went without food, a bath and a night's worth of sleep to complete it. That's when the stress begins to multiply. Exponentially.

Time contracts when you’re stressed. You find that out three hours of sleep feels like fifteen minutes. Now you’re late for work and because you've let so your room get so messy, you can't remember where you put your contacts. It's okay that you can't see to drive, however, because you can't find your keys either. The latter fact is particularly disturbing because you lost your real set a long time ago and have been relying on your spare ever since.

The fact that you're running late for work is made a little more difficult by not being able to remove your pajama pants. You were so tired the night before, remember, that you accidentally tied the drawstring into double knot instead of a bow, and now they won't come off because they're not made of stretchy material. You consider cutting the drawstring, but that would ruin them, and this is your favorite pair. Extra baggy.

So you finally find the keys -- who threw them under your bed? -- and fish out a new set of contacts while thanking heaven someone invented disposables. You show up at work two hours late, greasy granny knot firmly in place, and sneak in the back door hoping no one will see you in your pajama pants. You run into your office praying that Blonde Moment -- I mean, your co-worker -- can release you from your flannel prison. The whole office finds out about it because Blonde Moment – I mean, your co-worker –- has a big mouth. They don't let you live it down. Your boss double dog dares you to wear the pajama pants all day long sometime in the future. You're tempted because you’d rather sleep in for a few more minutes than take the time to pick out an outfit in the morning.

You’re so tired you can’t think of a way to end your blog entry. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzleep deprivation causes you to fall asleep at odd moments. In between moments of clarity and befuddlement, you say a prayer of thanks that you have this one small outletzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

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