Thursday, May 03, 2007
Being Immodest is better than being Modest??
So today another teacher commented on my "cute outfit." It made her remember a conversation she had with some of my students. She informed me that several of my students were intentionally failing my class so they could "look at me again next year." I felt the vomit rise up in my mouth. How disgusting. I know the teacher didn't tell me that to make me feel bad, but I felt bad anyway.
I wouldn't consider myself a horribly ugly person, but I'm definitely not that good looking. I realize that I'm young and probably much nicer than I should be, but am I that much of a distraction?
I asked some of my Junior and Senior students about it. (We often talk about the maturity level of junior high students compared to high school students.) One of my students offered this explanation:
Why are guys attracted to certain aspects of the opposite sex? It's because they are not seen. In America, guys see girls' hair, ears, etc. all the time. Most Women here don't cover ourselves with veils, and thefore guys don't usually "lust" after those areas. However in areas like the Middle East, guys find ears and such attractive because they don't usually see those areas on women. So by being who I am, not wearing pants, I don't reveal myself to guys. This makes the boys find me even more attractive.
So according to his theory, being modest makes me more irrestible? In some ways, I agree with his point of view. Now my problem...is that a good thing?? My modesty and mystery is more alluring to guys? Well at least to 12-18 year olds...
# posted by kdc @ 2:48 PM 
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it's the human condition - we want what we can't have.
So high school boys want to see what they can't see. It won't change when you pass these kids on. Next year will have more.
good luck with that!
So high school boys want to see what they can't see. It won't change when you pass these kids on. Next year will have more.
good luck with that!
You have to realize you're dealing with middle-high school-aged boys.
I don't know about the other teachers where you work, but you're probably one of the youngest female teachers they have, if not the youngest. That in and of itself is reason for their hormones to rage regardless of the way you dress, probably. I have had to sidestep some issues as a young teacher myself, as in,"Um, Will, I'm your TEACHER. You can't talk about wanting to marry me." lol.
But the whole guys want what they can't have thing does have merit, I think. Some of them seem to be turned on by a wholesome-looking girl because, disgustingly, they see her as a potential conquest.
And, personally, I think you're beautiful. Not just "not horribly ugly." :-)
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I don't know about the other teachers where you work, but you're probably one of the youngest female teachers they have, if not the youngest. That in and of itself is reason for their hormones to rage regardless of the way you dress, probably. I have had to sidestep some issues as a young teacher myself, as in,"Um, Will, I'm your TEACHER. You can't talk about wanting to marry me." lol.
But the whole guys want what they can't have thing does have merit, I think. Some of them seem to be turned on by a wholesome-looking girl because, disgustingly, they see her as a potential conquest.
And, personally, I think you're beautiful. Not just "not horribly ugly." :-)
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